TED演講：請(qǐng)別忘記感謝身邊的人

　　Hi. I'm here to talk to you about the importance of praise, admiration and thank you, and having it be specific and genuine.

　　嗨。我在這里要和大家談?wù)勏騽e人表達(dá)贊美，傾佩和謝意的重要性。并使它們聽來真誠，具體。

　　And the way I got interested in this was, I noticed in myself, when I was growing up, and until about a few years ago, that I would want to say thank you to someone, I would want to praise them, I would want to take in their praise of me and I'd just stop it. And I asked myself, why? I felt shy, I felt embarrassed. And then my question became, am I the only one who does this? So, I decided to investigate.

　　之所以我對(duì)此感興趣 是因?yàn)槲覐奈易约旱某砷L中注意到幾年前，當(dāng)我想要對(duì)某個(gè)人說聲謝謝時(shí)，當(dāng)我想要贊美他們時(shí)，當(dāng)我想接受他們對(duì)我的贊揚(yáng)，但我卻沒有說出口。我問我自己，這是為什么?我感到害羞，我感到尷尬。接著我產(chǎn)生了一個(gè)問題 難道我是唯一一個(gè)這么做的人嗎? 所以我決定做些探究。

　　I'm fortunate enough to work in the rehab facility, so I get to see people who are facing life and death with addiction. And sometimes it comes down to something as simple as, their core wound is their father died without ever saying he's proud of them. But then, they hear from all the family and friends that the father told everybody else that he was proud of him, but he never told the son. It's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear it.

　　我非常幸運(yùn)的在一家康復(fù)中心工作，所以我可以看到那些因?yàn)樯习a而面臨生與死的人。有時(shí)候這一切可以非常簡單地歸結(jié)為， 他們最核心的創(chuàng)傷來自于他們父親到死都未說過“他為他們而自豪”。但他們從所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知他的父親告訴其他人為他感到自豪，但這個(gè)父親從沒告訴過他兒子。因?yàn)樗�不知道他的兒子需要聽到這一切。

　　So my question is, why don't we ask for the things that we need? I know a gentleman, married for 25 years, who's longing to hear his wife say, "Thank you for being the breadwinner, so I can stay home with the kids," but won't ask. I know a woman who's good at this. She, once a week, meets with her husband and says, "I'd really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the kids." And he goes, "Oh, this is great, this is great." And praise really does have to be genuine, but she takes responsibility for that. And a friend of mine, April, who I've had since kindergarten, she thanks her children for doing their chores. And she said, "Why wouldn't I thank it, even though they're supposed to do it?"

　　因此我的問題是，為什么我們不索求我們需要的東西呢?我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)結(jié)婚25年的男士 渴望聽到他妻子說“感謝你為這個(gè)家在外賺錢，這樣我才能在家陪伴著孩子，”但他從來不去問。我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)精于此道的女士。每周一次，她見到丈夫后會(huì)說，“我真的希望你為我對(duì)這個(gè)家和孩子們付出的努力而感謝我。”他會(huì)應(yīng)和到“哦，真是太棒了，真是太棒了。”贊揚(yáng)別人一定要真誠， 但她對(duì)贊美承擔(dān)了責(zé)任。一個(gè)從我上幼兒園就一直是朋友的叫April的人，她會(huì)感謝她的孩子們做了家務(wù)。她說：“為什么我不表示感謝呢，即使他們本來就要做那些事情?”

　　So, the question is, why was I blocking it? Why were other people blocking it? Why can I say, "I'll take my steak medium rare, I need size six shoes," but I won't say, "Would you praise me this way?" And it's because I'm giving you critical data about me. I'm telling you where I'm insecure. I'm telling you where I need your help. And I'm treating you, my inner circle, like you're the enemy. Because what can you do with that data? You could neglect me. You could abuse it. Or you could actually meet my need.

　　因此我的問題是，為什么我不說呢?為什么其它人不說呢?為什么我能說：“我要一塊中等厚度的牛排，我需要6號(hào)尺寸的鞋子，”但我卻不能說：“你可以贊揚(yáng)我嗎?” 因?yàn)檫@會(huì)使我把我的重要信息與你分享。會(huì)讓我告訴了你我內(nèi)心的不安。會(huì)讓你認(rèn)為我需要你的幫助。雖然你是我最貼心的人，我卻把你當(dāng)作是敵人。你會(huì)用我托付給你的重要信息做些什么呢?你可以忽視我。你可以濫用它。或者你可以滿足我的要求。

　　And I took my bike into the bike store-- I love this -- same bike, and they'd do something called "truing" the wheels. The guy said, "You know, when you true the wheels, it's going to make the bike so much better." I get the same bike back, and they've taken all the little warps out of those same wheels I've had for two and a half years, and my bike is like new. So, I'm going to challenge all of you. I want you to true your wheels: be honest about the praise that you need to hear. What do you need to hear? Go home to your wife -- go ask her, what does she need? Go home to your husband -- what does he need? Go home and ask those questions, and then help the people around you.

　　我把我的.自行車拿到車行--我喜歡這么做--同樣的自行車，他們會(huì)對(duì)車輪做整形。那里的人說：“當(dāng)你對(duì)車輪做整形時(shí)， 它會(huì)使自行車變成更好。”我把這輛自行車拿回來，他們把有小小彎曲的鐵絲從輪子上拿走這輛車我用了2年半，現(xiàn)在還像新的一樣。所以我要問在場的所有人，我希望你們把你們的車輪整形一下：真誠面對(duì)對(duì)你們想聽到的贊美。你們想聽到什么呢? 回家問問你們的妻子，她想聽到什么?回家問問你們的丈夫，他想聽到什么?回家問問這些問題，并幫助身邊的人實(shí)現(xiàn)它們。

　　And it's simple. And why should we care about this? We talk about world peace. How can we have world peace with different cultures, different languages? I think it starts household by household, under the same roof. So, let's make it right in our own backyard. And I want to thank all of you in the audience for being great husbands, great mothers, friends, daughters, sons. And maybe somebody's never said that to you, but you've done a really, really good job. And thank you for being here, just showing up and changing the world with your ideas.

　　非常簡單。為什么要關(guān)心這個(gè)呢?我們談?wù)撌澜绾推�。我們�(cè)趺从貌煌�的文化，不同的語言來保持世界和平? 我想要從每個(gè)小家庭開始。所以讓我們?cè)诩依锞桶堰@件事情做好。我想要感謝所有在這里的人們因?yàn)槟銈兪呛谜煞颍�好母親，好伙伴，好女兒和好兒子�；蛟S有些人從沒跟你們說過但你們已經(jīng)做得非常非常得出色了。感謝你們來到這里，向世界顯示著你們的智慧，并用它們改變著世界。

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