內心強大的人必備的特質
來看看內心強大的人必備的七個特質，你有了嗎?
1. Embrace Change
Hanna Phan’s story is a great example of embracing change. She was applying for jobs but wasn’t finding success with her resume. Why? Well, times have changed. The resume just isn’t as effective as it used to be. If you want to stand out from the crowd of job seekers, a resume doesn’t exactly yell out, “Hey, I’m awesome!” — unless you’re the CEO of Google or Facebook .
So what did Hanna do? Instead of complaining about the job market or how hard it was to get interviews with her resume, she embraced the fact that she had to do something radically awesome to get her potential employer’s attention.
She created a presentation resume video and tweeted it at the CEO of one of the hottest technology companies in the valley. You can YouTube search “Hanna Phan Presume.”
And yes, she got the job.
1、擁抱變化
漢娜•潘的故事就是一個很好的例子。她想要找工作，但她的簡歷沒能幫助她取得成功。為什么呢?因為時代在變化。簡歷不再像以前一樣有用了。如果你希望從蕓蕓眾生中脫穎而出，一份簡歷通常并不能讓人虎軀一震——除非你是谷歌或Facebook的CEO。
那么，漢娜是怎樣做的?她沒有抱怨就業(yè)市場，也沒有埋怨光憑一份簡歷多么難以獲得面試，而是積極接受現(xiàn)實，知道自己需要做出真正出色的事情，才能吸引潛在雇主的注意。
她創(chuàng)作了一個個人履歷演示視頻，并在Twitter上將其推送給了硅谷最炙手可熱的一家科技公司CEO。你可以在YouTube上搜索“Hanna Phan Presume”看到它。
最終，她求職成功了。
2. Be willing to take risks
There’s a risk to not taking a risk. It’s complacency. It’s stagnancy.
When I was 26, I had this idea that people would love to have flashcards to help themselves prepare for interviewing. After all, who likes to go to the store to buy pens, notecards and then have to write each of the questions and answers on their own?
So I decided I was going to build an app. The only problem was that I had no design skills, no marketing budget and no connections to developers. Oh, and I also couldn’t code — slight problem.
Building an app was really risky. Almost everyone I talked to told me that.
So what did I do? I buried myself into articles, trainings and networked with people in the space to learn as much as I could. Once I had an idea of how to approach it, I hired a developer on Elance and designed the app myself with Photoshop. Within a year I had built three top-50 apps in their respective categories. One app hit 75,000 downloads in a day.
Want to be mentally strong? You can’t be afraid. You have to be willing to take calculated risks.
2、勇于承擔風險
不敢去冒險本身就是一種風險。它意味著懈怠自滿，停滯不前。
我在26歲時發(fā)現(xiàn)，人們很喜歡使用可抽取的小卡片來準備面試。不過，誰愿意去商店購買鋼筆、卡片，再在上面寫上各個問題，然后自問自答呢?
所以我決定做一個應用。唯一的問題是我不會設計，沒有營銷資金，也不認識開發(fā)者。呃，我還不會編碼，但這都是小問題。
做一個應用真的風險很大。幾乎每個跟我談過的人都這么說。
那么我是怎么做的?我一頭扎進各種教程和培訓中，與業(yè)內人士交流，盡可能多地掌握知識。想清楚了如何實現(xiàn)目標之后，我在Elance上雇傭了一個開發(fā)者，自己用Photoshop設計應用。在一年之內，我就做出了三個應用，它們在各自類別里都排進了前50名。其中一個應用的日下載數(shù)最高達到了7.5萬。
想要變得堅強?你可不能膽怯。你得愿意承擔那些經過計算的合理風險。
3. Learn from the past and look toward the future
You’re going to make mistakes along the way. I call those “speed bumps.” (My good friend Nate Leung gave me that phrase.) Yes, sometimes it makes the ride a little uncomfortable, but hey, have you ever been stopped by a speed bump before? I don’t think so.
When I was at a Fortune 500 company, I emailed my boss’s boss once letting him know that I couldn’t make it to the regional sales team meeting. Guess what? My boss got angry that I emailed his boss instead of him. What seemed like an innocent email was actually a political fiasco, apparently.
I was really young and new to my career at the time, so I dwelled on it and felt terrible for a few days.Eventually, I realized I just needed to learn from it. Everyone has different styles at work and it’s important to be aware of how they want to work with you.
Guess what? I barely even think about that day now. In fact, I’ve actually never thought about it until now. That’s what I call a speed bump. If that happened to me today, I wouldn’t even blink. You learn to realize what’s a big deal and what’s not.
So when you run into a speed bump, learn from mistakes and move on. Keep your eyes on the future. You’ve got a lot of epic awesomeness ahead of you.
3、從過往中吸取教訓，永遠向前看
在成長途中你會犯錯。我把它們叫做“減速條”。(這是我的好朋友內特•梁提出的說法。)對，有時候這會讓你開車時有點不適，不過，你會因為減速條而停車嗎?我想不會。
我曾經就職于《財富》500強公司，當時我給頂頭上司的老板發(fā)了一封郵件，告訴他我無法出席地區(qū)銷售團隊的會議。猜猜發(fā)生了什么?我的上司非常憤怒，因為我越級匯報了。一封似乎很無辜的郵件，實際上“政治不正確”。
當時我真的很年輕，職業(yè)生涯剛剛起步，所以我總是在想這件事，好幾天都感覺很糟糕。最后我意識到，我只是需要從中吸取教訓。每個人都有不同的工作風格，搞清楚他們想要怎么跟你共事十分重要。
我?guī)缀醪辉傧肽翘彀l(fā)生的事情了。實際上，直到剛才提到這事之前，我一次也沒想過。這就是我說的減速條。如果那件事現(xiàn)在發(fā)生在我身上，我甚至都不會眨一眨眼。你需要學會辨別哪些是重要的事情，哪些不是。
所以當你遭遇減速條時，吸取經驗教訓，繼續(xù)前進吧。要著眼于未來。前方還有很多了不起的事情在等著你。
4. Stay positive
One of my best friends, Erik, had an awesome secret to staying positive.
Anytime a conversation would get tense or someone would get upset, Erik would acknowledge the feeling, talk it out with that person and then bring up a positive comment about a completely different topic. He wouldn’t let people dwell on negative emotions. If anything, he would try to cheer you up by making you laugh about something.
And you know what? It worked every single time for me.
If you want to be mentally strong, stop stewing on negative thoughts and feelings. Think positive.
Need some inspiration to feel more positive and happy in life and in work? Just read about my friend’s story here: The Secret to Being Happy at Work (And in Life)
4、保持積極心態(tài)
我的好朋友埃里克有個很棒的秘訣，它能夠幫助你始終保持積極的態(tài)度。
每當談話陷入僵局，或是有人情緒沮喪，埃里克總能感受到。他會與那個人溝通，然后換一個不同的話題，提出積極的觀點。他從來不讓人們沉浸于負面情緒中。他會嘗試著給你打氣，設法讓你開懷大笑。
這對我每次都很奏效。
如果你想堅強，就不要糾結于負面的'想法和感受。要積極樂觀地考慮問題。
5. “Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.”
I freaking love this quote. Thanks, Mia Hamm.
In February, I threw my first big marketing event and one executive roundtable. We had 100 customers and prospects show up. There were laughs, an amazing customer story and an undeniable buzz in the building.After the event, people mentioned that it was a great event.
Do you know what I did after the event?
I thought about how I could make it better.
In April, I threw my second big marketing event. We had 140 people attend. We also hosted four roundtables simultaneously. There were laughs, an amazing executive panel and an undeniable buzz in the building.
After the event, people mentioned that it was even better than the first event.
Do you know what I did after the event?
I thought about how I could make it better.
Keep raising the bar. It’s how you stay mentally strong.
5、“為你取得的成就慶祝，不過每成功一次后都要把自我目標提高一點。”
我非常喜歡這句話。謝謝你，瑪利爾•哈姆。
今年2月，我啟動了第一場由我自己組織的大型營銷活動，以及一次行政圓桌會議。有100個客戶和潛在客戶出席了我們的活動。會場中充滿歡聲笑語，我們分享了一個精彩的客戶案例，贏得了滿堂喝彩。結束后，人們說這場活動真棒。
在活動結束后我干了什么呢?
我想的是怎樣才能把它做得更好。
今年4月，我啟動了第二場大型營銷活動。這次有140人參會。我們還同時舉辦了四場圓桌會議。高管研討會十分精彩，會場中充滿歡聲笑語，再次贏得了滿堂喝彩。
活動結束后，人們說這場活動比第一場還要好。
在活動結束后我干了什么呢?
我想的是怎樣才能把它做得更好。
不斷提高自我目標。這就是你保持堅強的方式。
6. Focus on what you can control
Draw two circles that slightly overlap. In one, write, “Stuff that is important.” In the other circle, write, “Stuff that you can actually control.” See that small area where the two circles overlap? That’s what you should focus your energy on.
6、專注于你可以控制的事情
畫兩個有一部分重合的圓圈。在其中一個寫道：“重要的員工”。另一個寫道：“你可以控制的員工”�？吹絻蓚�圓圈重疊的地方了嗎?那些就是你應當著重關注的人。
7. Keep your eyes on the big picture
What’s your big picture? Is it building the playbook on how to grow a start up? Is it leading and inspiring a team to be at their best? Is it raising a great family and having great work life balance?
Whatever your big picture is, stay focused on it. Don’t get dragged down by the small stuff.
Now go out there and make it happen.
7、著眼于長遠規(guī)劃
你的長遠規(guī)劃是什么?是創(chuàng)建一家公司并讓它成長壯大嗎?是領導一個團隊，并激勵他們做到最好嗎?是經營一個很棒的家庭，并在家庭和工作上取得平衡嗎?
無論你的長遠規(guī)劃是什么，專注于它。不要被一些小事情所拖累。
現(xiàn)在就去實現(xiàn)它們吧。